O i don't know where to start!! Im mentally exhausted.
I'm sorry but im feeling particularly sorry for myself tonight, so i'm sorry for the me me me post!!!!
I know divorce isn't nice and often becomes volatile but my stbxh is just a bloody nightmare.
So he left me a year ago, saying lots of very odd stuff such as he wanted to have an open relationship, why couldn't he have sex with someone else and then with me. He wanted to live in the spare room and ramain working in the office in the back garden etc etc etc. I became mentally ill as his behaviour was just so odd and detached. There's obviously a lot more to it than that but trying to summarize it. So he didnt want to be with me but some how thought he would remain in the house, work in the shed and still be a part of the family with out committing to me. OUr children are very young (pre schoolers) he belived he would be able to work in the office and see them every day. I had to get a solicitor to make him leave the property. She explained to me that this was domestic abuse, esp as at how ill it was making me!!
Right so one year on and hes just as much a bloody nightmare, hes now moved in with a woman and her 2 children in her house an hour away. Hes constantly abusive to me in text, emails and the communication book, basically says im a bad mother, mocks my mental health etc etc. All im interested in is whats in the best interest of the children. He twists everything to be my fault, denies domestic abuse. Hes taken me to court twice regarding the children, and there's a threat of him taking me back again. He wont provide all the financial information for the form e. Hes not giving the correct amount of child maintenance. He constantly brings the children back looking unkempt, in yesterdays pants, uncombed hair, not using the correct medication for one of the children even though the dr has said he needs to.
Hes withheld them at his place expecting me to collect them as he wont drive them back even though hes moved an hour away. Hes withheld their toys and made them upset and the list goes on and on and on.
Im of course not perfect and have made some mistakes along the way, but i always try to put the children first. He appears more interested at getting at me. I just want to move on with my life, the children live with me as i have a residency order (things didn't go well for him in court) as he wasn't child focused. I just want to be the best parent i can be, but im constantly being dragged down by him and i also suspect his girlfriend may well be involved!
I just need so words of wisdom, as im feeling pretty down trodden today! I feel as if i sould be a lot more forward with all of this by now, this was a man i loved and was married to for a long time.
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Just let me move on with my life! :-(
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Whatiwishfor · 08/02/2018 22:40
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