Long story, short: 20 years married, 4 DCs, STBXH left 4 months ago to pursue relationship with OW. It's not the first time he's cheated and I Am Done (not that he is showing any signs of regretting his actions).
Anyhoo, I really want to separate our finances asap, I want to look in to whether I can afford to keep the house, I need to know what kind of maintenance I might be able to get for the boys.
I cannot make any calculations because he is not disclosing things like his pension etc. He seems to think that I will needs to buy him out (and maybe I do?) and that whatever lump sum I owe him will allow him to go for a new mortgage etc etc.
My priority is totally my boys, I don't want their lives more disrupted than necessary.
How can I get him to disclose stuff and reach an agreement?
It's time for a lawyer, isn't it? Can lawyer chase these kind of things up? Make him engage in negotiations??
Gah. Prick.
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PerfectlyDone · 06/02/2018 22:29
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