Short history - bad things in the marriage - cheating on his part, internet dating, lies, hiding things etc and so I know it is for the best but now its happening Im a mess. We had a huge row at Xmas and I was the one who said a break would be a good idea but the reality is that it hasnt been amicable, adult discussed break. He's kept me out of the loop whilst spending money on our account and selling things from the home as he is skint til payday - things he did bring fair enough but he has no use for a lawnmower! What he wants is to leave and then we can maybe see what will happen when things calm down - maybe go on dates. In the meantime I have been removed from his facebook (and my family) and he's buying his own food because I mentioned he hadnt bought anything this monnth (that is our arrangement whilst I buy the diesel) but I am somehow the big bad person in all this!! I agree a separation is probably a good idea but my suggestion of counselling is met with a big no. I feel absolutely all over the place - maybe some of it is because he has decided to go and Im not involved in any of it and he's not even discussing things like the dog (he is the main walker as he works shifts), bills, debts etc. I just feel like after all Ive been through with him and tried to put right Im now being punished because I still find it hard to forget what he did and this is the reason he is going. he says we need to just have a clean sheet and move on but I find that hard - its only 12 months since it all happened. How will I get through this?? My anxiety which I had been working on after his affair is throiugh the roof again.
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Husband leaving - was OK but now the reality has set in
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Joto369 · 22/01/2018 15:36
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