Hi,
I'd like if possible another perspective about splitting finances with STBX. I'm respondent in divorce- the marriage just broke down. We both love our children dearly, so we don't want them to grown up in a tense household. I'm a man by the way.
STBX and I have exchanged form Es mid-December.
Towards the end of the form, she ticked that she wants home to be signed over to her in her name, spousal maintenance and a share of my pension. Based on what I have written below, does she have a strong case?
Basic details. 11 year marriage, 2 kids - 5 and 10 year old. I'd like to share parenting with STBX - 30-40% of time after divorce.
My assets :
110k in shared home (50% value)
39k savings
45k pension
My net income per month is 3k
Her assets
110k in home
80k savings
Pension that she hasn't disclosed value of (12 years of service)
200k other property
Her net income per month is 4.2k.
Our outgoings are broadly similar. We are both very active in the upbringing of the children.
I am worried sick! I don't want to be broke and destitute- I will need what savings I have to rehouse myself in something that is acceptable for the children. I have heard that if this can't be sorted out amicably, the court proceedings to defend myself against her settlement push could easily drain my savings. She can afford to take it to court, I can't.
Any advice and guidance would be most welcomed. Thank you people.
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auberJohn · 20/01/2018 18:24
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