I’m just wondering if anyone else is or has been in the same position as me. I’m actually not entirely a SAHM but since having our DD (she’s now 21 months) i’ve only done short term temporary contracts (while my parents babysit) or work that can be done from home when kids asleep. My oldest is 5 and in school. DH left us in May last year. Prior to him walking out the plan was for us to continue like this - he works (has own business which is very successful) while i look after the kids, and ‘keep my hand in’ my career with this ac hoc Work.
But now we’re splitting I just don’t understand how long he legally ‘has to’ support me (in addition to the kids) - should I just look for a job ASAP? I’m not sure what I would do for childcare as my parents only help because it’s now and again, they wouldn’t want to commit every week. I don’t really want to just ‘live off’ my ex husband obviously but at the same time our DD is still very little and won’t qualify for her nursery hours for another year. Plus with all they’ve been through with the split i want to be there for them as much as possible, not to mention we now ‘share’ them at weekends so I want to see them in the week!
Before i get flamed I do realise i’m in fairly lucky position financially, so far he has continued to support us but once were properly divorced I don’t know what will happen. I know I have to make a request in the order but how much should I ask for... enough to pay all mortgage and bills so I still have the choice or is that unreasonable? It was him who left me for another woman if that makes a difference, it may not!
Asking now as i’ve heard there’s a vacancy at one of the places I freelance at and i’m Wondering whether to go for it but it’s been ages since i’ve Worked full time and don’t know if I should if I don’t have to etc....
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Anyone else a SAHM at time of split? Plans re work and maintenance?
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PenelopeChipShop · 14/01/2018 13:22
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