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Married or maiden name?

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MrsY Mon 08-Jan-18 16:04:53

My husband moved out in September, and I will be filing for divorce once we have the consent agreement from mediation.
I am applying for uni in September, and it has got me thinking about my name.
I changed my name on Fb the day I found out he was cheating on me, and had hoped we would complete therapy together and stay together, when I would then change my name back.
We have two children together, and I think on a practical level it is best for children to have the same name as both parents, but I don't know if I see myself as MrsY anymore - must name change here!
My degree and new career are part of me creating a new identity, but I don't know if I should be Mrs or Miss ...

What have you done? What are your thoughts about mothers having the same name as their children?

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Whatiwishfor Mon 08-Jan-18 16:29:00

Iv been wondering this but iv defo decided to go back to my maiden name. Iv got 2 young children and tbh i dont think it makes much difference now a days!
Hes turned out to be a guy i don't know or like and tbh changing my name will be liberating.

RoseNarene Mon 08-Jan-18 20:07:16

After my ex cheated on me I couldn't bear to have his name any more. I went straight back to my maiden name. It's been a pain but only because I've needed a gazillion different documents with my name on to apply for DBS checks due to getting a new job.

Gwendolenfairfaxx Mon 08-Jan-18 21:39:35

Reverted to my maiden name within weeks of separation. I wanted to lose all association with my ex husband and didn’t want a constant reminder of him in my future. Everyone’s circumstances are different though.

MrsY Sun 14-Jan-18 19:06:14

I've decided to go back to Miss. Spoke to my 8 yr old and she wasn't fussed either way. New photos taken today for DL and passport, and a new signature!!

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Kittycat124 Sun 14-Jan-18 21:34:20

I’m planning on going back to my maiden name as soon as my divorce is completed. I’m taking the title ‘Ms’ also. I might change my mind but my plan is when I’m officially single again

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 Sun 14-Jan-18 23:22:57

I've always used the title Ms but I kept my married name for the following reasons

1. I don't want to have a different name to my kids
2. Don't want to fill in any forms.
3. No-one on this earth cares whether my name is XXX or YYY. I'm still the same person.

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