My ex partner is a drug dealer, and a heavy drug user. During my pregnancy he became abusive, mentally and twice physically during the pregnancy.
Evidence I have is his toxicology report - shows heavy drug use to lighter most recent (he delayed the drug test by 2 - 3 months as well!) and he told my midwife he was a drug dealer (she is head of midwives) which is in her statement. Also evidence: he used to call the hospital, any maternal department and say I was crazy and should be locked up. He called me a vessel for carrying his child and that he will take her from me. I have this on text messages. And more.
Yet I got an email from my solicitor today that stated the judge wanted to give parental responsibility and allow contact? What the actual f? I've had social services involved, an independent domestic violence advisor...what is going on. I've left the UK to be safe from him and his suppliers AND I have a non molestation against him. I cannot even get my head around this.
I have so much more. The fact I offered mediation to his family throughout my pregnancy, and again to his mother after - no response. I met with her and she said when he was arrested he told everyone it was because I harmed the baby....
She said so many things that were lies she was told by her son, and how he was going to court to get my daughter because I was an unfit mum. I recorded the whole thing without his mother knowing so I have as much evidence because this is madness yet no one wants to sit down and hear it all and keep my child safe.
I made a mistake with him, but I don't want her to suffer my mistake.
During the pregnancy before I admitted I was in an abusive relationship I asked to have my baby adopted so that she could be safe (there is evidence of this) and yet no one seems to see that I've been concerned since falling pregnant and no one advised me on what to do just said "it would work out" - well I don't want "it will work out" I want "your daughter will be safe".
So far she is happy, learning and we are our own amazing family and I haven't looked back. I'll keep fighting for her but when I hear ridiculous stuff like this from the lawyer its like someone has punched me in the chest. How much more evidence can stare them in the face before they take me seriously?
I don't want to be in the position where they say "we made a mistake" and my daughter is hurt, or worse. Ever. I've never loved anyone more than I do her and I find it hard that a bunch of strangers listen to his lies and could put her in danger even though I present facts and evidence. I'm so saddened by this all.
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allypally11 · 16/12/2017 00:58
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