Divorce after FDA, next steps

[2hearts1970]

I'm halfwaythrough a divorce, posted here before, and exchanged Form E's, exchanged questionnaires and had our first FDA meeting at court.

We now have a second deadline to get property valuations, more bank statements, and answer questionnaires.

She is the applicant in the Divorce, and it seems with her questions that were dropped on me, that she has the 'upper hand' asking about every transaction on my statements (under £500 and under £250), personal questions unrelated to anything (these have been dropped now), while i feel like onthe back foot

I now have to obtain property particulars for somewhere suitable to live, and mortgage capacity evidence
Does anyone have any info on getting these, and whats required exactly?

And as I am self-employed decorator, and work has been slow, I need to now get job applications for something else, and show evidence of interviews within less than a month?

I feel a little overwhelmed as I left with nothing, and she has everything. Its basically my word against hers, as we had a good lifestyle and I looked after other things within the marriage more than the money earning side. now we have split, its all about how she has everything, i have nothing, and that she still wants it all.

I have come this far, do i keep going? :(

Thank you for any help

[MrsBertBibby]

Property particulars means estate agent details of homes that would meet your need, to buy, or to rent, including space for the children if you have them to stay.

Mortgage capacity ideally involves seeing a mortgage broker, and getting them to advise on what you might be able to borrow, and what that would cost. You may well have to pay for this. You need it in writing. They may have to guess about size of deposit etc.

[thisishard2]

Are you and your ex still living together? Even if you are not, you are still entitled to 50%. Neither side can "have it all" - not you or your ex.

[thisishard2]

50% is the starting point. Sometimes it varies a little according to need and other factors.

[2hearts1970]

Hi thisishard2, No we are separated and not still living together.

I was always told by my lawyer that it was 50% start point, but as time as gone on, I am starting to doubt this, as its quite intense atm.