Just that really. Husband left me a few weeks ago. I have been doing ok - well managing to hold it together to go into work, function for my kids ( who are little).
It’s my birthday today and I have been awake crying for hours. The kids will wake soon and be excited for me so I really need to pull myself together but I can’t. I just feel so hopeless, overwhelmed and scared.
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Recently separated. My birthday and can’t stop crying
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Ilovecrumpets · 06/12/2017 06:06
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Ilovetolurk ·
06/12/2017 06:21
Sorry OP 
You will feel better once you can cuddle DCs
Have you anything planned with friends or family?
lurkingwithlove ·
06/12/2017 06:36
Oh it's just the pits that feeling. Once you live separately it'll slowly ease but it takes time.
All you can do is recognise that it truly is a sad situation and let the people you trust comfort and help you. If you try and resist or keep it to yourself it'll get worse. So my only advice is to reach out. Work colleagues can go from lovely to becoming great friends in times like these. for your birthday.
FV45 ·
06/12/2017 07:01
Can you tell one of your colleagues and have a good old cry?
I felt the same this year. Kept myself busy but told a few trusted people that actually I was feeling pretty sad.
One day of the year where you want to feel a bit special...and you don’t. It’s hard.
Ilovecrumpets ·
06/12/2017 08:02
Thank you so much everyone - have managed to smile for the kids and not cry ( it’s usually thinking about the kids that makes me cry 
).
ferris I hope that is true for mine too. I’m most worried about my eldest as he is a sensitive boy and was badly affected when his father was away so much during his early years. He has just moved schools and is really settled for the first time 
.
A few colleagues at work know - I like to keep it together at work for the moment as I am relatively senior and quite valued - it is the one place that gives me back a bit of self confidence if that makes sense. I know I am lucky to have that.
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iamthrough ·
06/12/2017 09:10
@ilovecrumpets - Just thought I'd jump on to wish you Happy Birthday. Try to concentrate on work - where you clearly feel confident and valued. Maybe try to think of this as the first birthday of your new life? Perhaps that may help? It's only 1 birthday and I'm sure next year you will be in a far better place.
Ilovecrumpets ·
06/12/2017 13:49
Just to update - I came into work and there was a cake with candles and some little presents on my desk. People can be so kind 
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