I posted a few weeks ago about my husband telling me he wanted to separate. As others suspected he admitted last night he had had an ‘emotional affair’. He is leaving after Christmas. I have two young DCs, 5 and 3.
In some ways since he told me I have felt liberated as I can see now how unpleasant he had become to me - treating me with contempt. He seems to blame me completely for the end of the relationship - I’m lazy etc. I know that is no way to live.
Last night and this morning though it all just feels too much - I look ahead and think I can’t do this. I know I have to but it feels impossible and so lonely. I have no family near by and my friends have busy lives. We only have our house as an asset and my pension - I’ve looked and I can’t see much that I can afford where I am. I am the higher earner as he took time out to follow his dream whilst I looked after the kids and worked. And life is just going to be so hard and a struggle ( I do know it is for lots of other people and I have been lucky so far). I looked after the kids of my own for most of the time until last year whilst he followed my dream, so I know how unrelenting and lonely that can be. And I’m so worried for my children and what this means for them, it’s breaking me. And not being with them every day.
Sorry this is so long and rambling I just feel overwhelmed.
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Separation - I just feel like I can’t do this today
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Ilovecrumpets · 03/12/2017 06:39
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