Feel Totally Violated

[Joey1925]

Yesterday my soon to be /(or should I say 'not soon enough') ex-husband sent an email to me to which I discovered he'd cc'd his solicitor, a social worker and his best friend discussing details of our historic sex life!!! He did this as he discovered I'd tried to forward an email from his best friend. He thought I was upset because the email discussed his relationship with a 'friend' which had gone horribly wrong for him. He wanted to justify why it was OK for him to have an affair blaming our non-existent sex life. He also attached a religious website that gave a bible quote that basically said that a women's body became the property of her husbands once married!!! I was totally speechless!!

To add insult to injury his friend congratulated him on a well written email and said something along the lines of let's hope she understands the message.

I had to point out to him that we are now at the decree Nisi stage and the reason are marriage failed is irrelevant. The only thing that made me feel slightly better was that he is likely to be building a rather large legal bill if he does this sort of stupid thing.

The real reason that I tried to forward the email in the first place was that his friend was trying to imply that the reason I could not make our first mediation session was lie (I actually have a work commitment).

[Mumteedum]

My advice for what it is worth... Disengage. Don't reply. Don't try to 'defend' yourself. Focus your energy on real friends who know the truth.

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1]

How does he know you tried to forward an email to him?

[Joey1925]

He uses the family email address to correspond to his friends. I was forwarding one of his to myself and it got stuck, so I tried to delete it. I think I might have forgotten to delete it from the deleted folder.

[NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1]

How do you know he cc'd his solicitor, a social worker and his friend into the email he sent you - and why did he do that?

Sorry for the questions, I'm just trying to make sense of what happened here

probably best if you get yourself a new email address and stop using the family one, or shut it down.

[somethingDifferent38]

How do you know he cc'd his solicitor, a social worker and his friend into the email he sent you
I'm guessing that the OP saw them under the CC row, at the top of the email, when she received it, surely that's by far the most likely way??
- and why did he do that?
How can the OP possibly know the answer to that!? Only he know why!

[Joey1925]

He sent it from the family email and left it open for all to see! How could I not see! We use a desktop computer based in the dining room.

[Olivetappas]

He's digging himself a hole let him dig

[Onlymeeeeee]

@oneredrose you need to click the three little dots in top right above the post and report your post, in the report say you were trying to set up a new thread