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Housing Advice - Can I move out?

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JustAJ Sun 29-Oct-17 07:44:52

Ok here's the situation. My husband and I are separating:
* House jointly owned and been on market for ages... Can't continue living together much longer.
* I want to move out, but can't afford to rent somewhere AND contribute to mortgage.
* Does anyone know what to do in this siruation? Am I entitled to any support?

ToesInWater Sun 29-Oct-17 07:47:26

You really need good legal advice. Usually moving out is not a good idea, I had a very sad case recently (mediator) where the woman moved out and the guy then refused to move or sell. Separated under the same roof sucks but be careful you don’t end up dong something you regret. Best of luck xx

Runningissimple Sun 29-Oct-17 07:48:17

My ex moved out and stopped contributing to the mortgage. Not illegal but it would have been problematic for both of us if I had defaulted on payments. It was a dickish move though.

Altwoo Sun 29-Oct-17 07:50:11

Can he afford the mortgage by himself?

JustAJ Sun 29-Oct-17 08:05:12

No he can't...

CousinKrispy Mon 30-Oct-17 11:04:03

Sorry for barging into your thread but I have a somewhat similar question.

House jointly owned, continuing to live together will be unbearable and H claims he will "never agree" to a divorce or move out himself.

I know solicitors advise remaining in the marital home, but for my mental health and to get the process going, I think I will have to move out. One solicitor I spoke with said that I was perfectly entitled to move out and pay rent in my own place.

We both earn about the same amount. Mortgage payment is about half my take-home pay each month (or his pay). Obviously not ideal in the long term, but in the short term if he is refusing to move he could pay it himself .... right?

Obviously there's the risk that he might refuse to pay in which case I'd be responsible (joint mortgage), but I think that risk is low and could be dealt with.

Sorry, just thinking out loud. I feel so stupid but he lectures me constantly pushing all kinds of buttons about how I'm ruining his life and our daughter's life and we will both be destitute and our DD will never be happy again and he will never consent to a divorce blah blah blah, it's hard for me to keep a perspective on reality.

I will talk with a solicitor again.

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