So we’re separated and about to start on financial discussions. Civil so far but separated due to him being financially controlling (no access to his earnings/savings, refused joint finances, relationship 20 years but married 3, 2 kids between 5 and 10).
He lives abroad in Europe due to work and comes and stays in our uk family home to see the kids every couple of weekends. The house is on the London/ Surrey borders. It’s currently worth about. £490k and the mortgage is about £280k so good equity and should only go up over time.
I need to explore all avenues available to me, one of which is me and the kids staying in the house till they are older.
Does anyone have experience of doing this? What would be the pros and cons? What happens if you agree to stay till they finish school but you decide after say 5 years that actually you want to move or he wants equity to buy himself somewhere rather than rent? How do things get revised?
Any experiences welcome, I’m the kind of person who likes being armed with info.
My family and friends are on hand to help me with the tough bits but they’ve not been through this before so don’t have first hand experience, thanks.
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ErnieAndBernie · 28/10/2017 12:16
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