My abusive stbxh ended things with me in January after stringing me along for months saying he would change and wanted to come home. He did this so that I wouldn’t testify on court and I was left feeling used and stupid.
He is very charming and is nothing but nice to me now which confuses and upsets me more. He was truly horrible to me, threatening to kill me and putting me down all the time but for some reason I miss him.
I am doing my the freedom programme which I find difficult as it shows how awful he actually was and shows me how badly he has affected me.
I have no self esteem or confidence as he made sure he took away what little I had left. I feel constantly sad (am on antidepressants) and find looking after my DCs difficult.
Why can’t I hate him, I want to be over him and move on with my life but I can’t. My mum keeps telling me it will take time but I just feel like I’ll always be like this while he moves on with someone else and I’m left in a mess.
I guess I want to know if anyone else had som thing similar? Did you get over them eventually? Do I need to give it more time? I just want to feel better :-(
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Getting over abusive stbxh
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butterfly1115 · 23/10/2017 08:58
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