What were your reasons listed if you filed for D under irreconcilable differences?

[Humiliated27]

My solicitor seems to think the more reasons I can give the better. But I'm quite happy for it to be H was unfaithful/trust has gone/H won't go to marriage counselling. I mean that is the main reason why we are D so I don't see the point in dragging H through the dirt even more (believe it or not!) by adding other things to the list. I don't want it going that way but solicitor seems to think adding things like he won't wear a wedding ring (never has) or that he smokes weed (always has) should be added. Did your listed reasons reflect the real reason you were D?

[Brakebackcyclebot]

OP, is your ex likely to fight the divorce? If not, then really the court will dinner stamp. The reasons you've given - unfaithful, no trust, he won't put effort into rectifying the situation - seem fine to me. Unless you have to, why would you inflame the situation more than necessary?

[BrassicaBabe]

I was told to give 3/4 reasons. Just enough for the judge to rubber stamp the papers and not enough to add fuel to the fire. I seem to remember being told that even "he clinks his teaspoon when he stirs his tea" would be sufficient for one reason. Not sure on the last one.

I also shared the reasons in an email with ex-DH in advance so that they weren't a surprise when court papers were received. Maybe a "nice" step too far for some, but I was trying to make the process smooth and easy.

[NotSureIfiAmWell]

I was advised 5-6 reasons, just to ensure it would not be refused by court.

I gave around 16 reasons and my solicitor chose the ones she wanted to submit