So worried

[NotSureIfiAmWell]

We have exchanged Form E.

He wants the house either sold or me to buy him out. I don't have the income to do that. I can't bear the thought that my boys are going to loose their home.

[JohnnyMarr]

I'm currently going through the same thing NotSure Have you had any legal advice? How old are your boys?

[NotSureIfiAmWell]

They are 14 and 10yrs.

I have a solicitor. Speaking to her tomorrow about his Forms contents.

[NotSureIfiAmWell]

I can't believe he would do this to us

[JohnnyMarr]

Same age as mine, and ditto

I can't believe STBX would be so intent on crushing me that he doesn't appear to give a shiny shit that his own children will be collateral damage.

Can you apply for a mesher order?

[NotSureIfiAmWell]

I don't know. He wants a clean break. Our eldest is autistic. It will distroy him.

I've heard that those who have custody get a higher % of the house...but does that really happen?

[JohnnyMarr]

My understanding is that priority is given to any minor children, and I would've thought that would be particularly relevant if your son is autistic, but the final outcome will ultimately depend on "need" and "affordability", so a lot hinges on your respective financial circumstances.

Hope the appointment with your solicitor offered some clarity

[NotSureIfiAmWell]

I had hoped to be able to offset my share of his pension against his share of the equity in the house.... which is about the same - so a 50/50 split. But she said they can't really be compared as a pension isn't "ready" money and he is entitled to cash now.

Feel so utterly let down. I just bare the thought of moving. We are currently in a large 4 bed and woud have to downsize to a small 2 bed. I'd sleep in the lounge on a sofa bed as my eldest can't bare sharing with anyone