need advice

[maybetomorrow4]

My dh told me a few months ago he wants a divorce. This came as a shock to me...i thought we were happy enough. I feel so stupid for thinking this.We have 2 dd aged 14 & 9.He told me last week he has met somebody else at work.I think this must have been going on for a while as he seems serious about her. I honestly had no clue and was hoping the divorce conversation would be forgotten.....He wants to remain in the family home and will 100% not move out. He has also said he wants me to move out so she can move in. Our home is in joint names. How do I stand in terms of rights to the house if I did move out ? Also if he was to remarry after our divorce would his new wife have a claim to the house? Thanks

[AnneLovesGilbert]

Don't move out!

If he wants to be with her he can go and be with her elsewhere until you've got an agreement on the marital home and the split of all the other assets.

What a bell end. Sorry you're going through this. What a shock. You must still be reeling.

Get thee to a lawyer asap.

Don't make any decisions or agree to anything.

Where the hell does he expect your DC to live anyway? In a bedsit with you while he lives the life of Riley in the home you both own with his new shag bird? Not a bloody chance.

Get your hands on as much paperwork as you can, don't discuss it with him, see a lawyer. It's an investment in yours and your DCs future security so get the best advice you can afford.

For now, you both own the house and can both live there. Don't do anything daft like threaten to kick him out and change the locks and don't move out.

[maybetomorrow4]

Thank you. I just can not think clearly atm. He will not sell the house as the girls are settled here and at school etc (which is something i agree with too ,to know they are not disrupted as much as possible in this situation) So he thinks I should move close by,so we can have joint custody.

[MrsBertBibby]

Has he considered whether your daughters will welcome his lovely new girlfriend into their family home?

You need to see a solicitor asap. Do you know anyone who can recommend someone local?

[colouringinagain]

Don't move out.

DO see a solicitor asap

Lean on friends and family and very best wishes

[notapizzaeater]

Absolutely don't move out - if he wants to shack up with his ow then he needs to leave.

Who does the childcare at the moment ?

[maybetomorrow4]

Thank you. I am going to see a solicitor on Wednesday. He is here in the morning before school and I am home from work before they get back. I work 6-2 .They walk to and from school together or with friends.

[maybetomorrow4]

Part of me thinks he is saying about joint custody,so he would not have to give me payments.

[Runningissimple]

Do not move out. See a solicitor. Find a good one that you trust. Do not be rushed into anything. He doesn't get to dictate the timeframe. Do not agree to anything that you're not sure about.