Thinking of divorcing hubby. We just do not get on anymore. He is moody/snappy at times and I am not putting up with crap like that long term.
Can anyone who has been through separation/divorce process advise
I have raised the issue of divorce with him. He does not think I am.serious then he starts,saying that I will wreck all of our lives etc. If I go ahead and he will contest it and be as obstructive as possible.
He is retired and full time carer to one of our 3 children with complex needs and disabilities.
I work full time and I am away from home three nights a week with work.
Financially I have my salary and he has just started recieving a state pension. I have know idea at this stage how finances would be work or be split post divorce. Does anyone know?
The house is mortgaged (in his name only) and all household bills including the mortgage are currently split.
We are both still living in the house at the moment. If I asked him to leave he would refuse.
I really enjoy work, but once divorced my SEN child will require round the clock care and unless I can find childcare that has experience with complex SEN children then I would have to give up work.
Not sure what would happen regarding the house all three children are happy and settled in their schools.
Hubby also reckons he won't see children if we divorce to spite me ( bastard! But I think that is just talk cos he does not want to face up to possibility of divorce) and he won't pay maintance because he just will.have his state pension and a small private pension.
Anyone know where I go from.here and the steps I need to take. Also how much it will cost me ? .
V early tentative stages and it seems like a daunting and liberating step, but one I need to take.
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I want to get divorced!
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bugaboo218 · 09/09/2017 18:19
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