Please help. I have a six month old baby boy conceived via IVF. After my baby was born my husband went into meltdown. Gambling, drinking, taking cocaine (he did this before the baby occasionally but I put it down to the stresses of not being able to conceive). When baby was4 months I couldn't take anymore. Mainly because he is an aggressive drunk, he would scream and shout and bang on the front door in the early hours with the baby in the house. He even had a fist fight with his brother in my living room when I was upstairs looking after his 6 day old baby. Anyway, I've left and am now divorcing him. My husband's father is exactly the same and I couldn't forgive myself if my son grew up to think that is normal. Since then, he's been aggressive and vile when picking the baby up. He lets me down every weekend that he says he's having him, then at a drop of a hat during the week he comes to pick him up during the week and spouts abuse at my mother and I saying he can have him whenever he wants. I've also found out that he was in the house and out of his head on cocaine when the baby was five weeks old. His parents are alcoholics, but he still takes him round there when he has him even though I have told him not to. I have said he can see him whenever he wants as long as he is civil, that is all I ask but he's not listening. It's starting to make me ill, and as my son gets older he is going to witness the way his dad speaks to women, this is why I left him! My mum thinks I should stop him from seeing my son, the last thing I wanted was to be that type of ex partner, but I honestly don't know what else to do? My greatest fear is that my son will turn into a moron just like his father :-(
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