I have just separated and my ex will be moving out in the next week or so.
Our children are 18 and 16 and will be living with me.
When I tried to broach the subject with my ex about contact with the children- he said that he wants it to be 'fluid ' and will sort it with them as they're older.
I said that I felt it was important to have some kind of routine- especially in the early days - so that they knew what was happening.
His response was that they are older and there will be times when they will have plans and won't be able to make the fixed arrangements- which I agreed with - and said that it was up to them to be the ones to change the arrangements in that case.
I also said that I need to know when they will be with him as I need to know when to cook etc.
He just called me controlling- which I think is unfair.
I think everyone concerned just needs to have a clear idea of what is happening.
Please can you give me your thoughts!!!!!
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Bexesangel · 23/08/2017 12:54
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