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How much contact?!

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alittlepieceofme · 22/08/2017 19:43

My oh walked out on us yesterday, I know he wants contact with our ds who is 8 months old but how much should he have?!

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alittlepieceofme · 22/08/2017 19:46

Does 3 hours a week sound ok because I'm still breastfeeding?

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mumofone234 · 22/08/2017 19:47

Ideally, as much as he wants (as long as its practical for you). I know it must be very hard for you, but it's your relationship that's over, not his relationship with his child. Poor you though!

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mumofone234 · 22/08/2017 19:47

And when I say as much as he wants, I mean that with him coming to you - not taking your child away.

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alittlepieceofme · 22/08/2017 19:49

Having visitation in the house you mean?

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alittlepieceofme · 22/08/2017 19:49

He's a good dad, I won't deny that but he's destroyed our lovely little family!

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mumofone234 · 22/08/2017 19:52

It's horrendous - I can't imagine how you must feel. Do you feel able to still co-parent at your house or his, spending time together, or are you going to struggle being together?

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alittlepieceofme · 22/08/2017 19:53

I really don't know at the moment, I'm heartbroken! He's not the person I thought he was! Sad

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mumofone234 · 22/08/2017 20:08

Ultimately it'll be so much better for DS if you're able to get along and spend some time together - and better for both of you because you'll get to have more time with him while he's so young (rather than missing him while he's with the other). Totally see where you're coming from regarding the breastfeeding though. It's not an easy situation.

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MrsBertBibby · 22/08/2017 21:47

First of all, you don't need to decide anything yet. Take a few days to process. He can wait a few days.

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alittlepieceofme · 23/08/2017 06:27

He said he'll give me space. Do you think it's worth getting a solicitor involved? Mainly because exon now lives with his sister who looked to party (not the best environment for a baby) and also ex doesn't contribute financially towards ds at all! Never has, he's self employed and at the moment the company isn't making much profit, I've paid for all household bills for the last 3 and half years!

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MrsBertBibby · 23/08/2017 07:50

Yes definitely see a solicitor.

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mumofone234 · 23/08/2017 09:43

Yes you definitely need to get the money side of things sorted.

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alittlepieceofme · 23/08/2017 20:19

My sisters friend works in family law so spoke to her today. Feel better for it! I've told ex he needs to start paying and I want a lump sum for all the time he lived in my house for free! His parents are loaded so I'm sure they'll bail him out!

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