I have been with my husband 14 years and this year have been married 10 years , we have always had an amazingly close relationship and are very huggy touches and always hold hands etc my husband started singing in a stupid tribute band around 4 years ago and I gave up my job at the weekend so he could do this as it early more money all was fine to begin with but then my anxiety hit in I hated him always being away at weekends began to worry that he would find someone else etc etc and this caused arguements any way he still swore to me nothing would ever break us he's wants me and the kids nothing else etc etc in march this year they went to Portsmouth and did 3 gigs over the weekend on the Friday night he messaged me saying he loved me so so much and he was just going out for drinks with the band it was 3am !! So I did go a little crazy and said I thought he was taking the piss about as he tells me its work but it seems more like it's an excuse for a night out !! Any way he came back and that week he was very strange not saying he loves me ( we used to say it all the time ) not holding my hand and I just got a general feel of something not right , around this time his friend in the band told his wife he no longer loved her and wanted to separate ! I said to my husband I was upset about this and said god if that happened to us his reply was let's hope not !!!!! Normally he would have said don't be stupid no way , any way things were still weird then his dad died suddenly and our daughter got diagnosed with diabetes my anxiety is now through the roof and how he is being towards me was making it worse we still however moved house which was his idea and started renovating it ( its rented but rundown and we had an agreement that we would decorate etc ) now 6 weeks ago he went after an arguement to his mums saying we were done he then came back and said he would stay here till after our holiday for the kids we then went to a family party and he was acting very strange pretending he was having a great time when clearly he was putting on an act ! Through all of this he won't sit and speak or look at me just texts saying I'm his world but he can't live with me and my anxiety !! I've pushed him away , any way to cut a long storey short he's gone staying at his mums but comes here everyday to see the kids still takes me to work !! And hugs me goodbye but despite all this he's adamant we are done for good never getting back together he doesn't love me !! I'm confused how can he through away 14 years in just 3 short months of acting like this it makes no sense I am so sos sad he's my best friend and I just want him to tell me everything will be ok :-(
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