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Will my husband regret his affair

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Kbh36 Wed 02-Aug-17 19:27:58

So I'm new to this but after some advice. 4 weeks ago I found messages on my husbands phone from a woman he used to work with-he confessed to having had an emotional affair for 7 months and says he needs to leave the marriage to explore his feelings for her. We have been together 13 years married 11 and have a 10 year old son. To say I'm devastated is an understatement he is a dr we Have moved multiple times for his career and lived apart-he became infertile but I was content with our one son. He says he loves me but isn't in love with me anymore it's like he has rewritten our history to somehow justify his actions. The ow is ten years younger she is also divorced with a 4 year old daughter she also lives 3 hours away!! Do you think their relationship will work out I find it hard to accept that he would throw in the towel for a fantasy! Is he thinking straight will he regret his choices. At this stage I just want the relationship with the ow to fail and him to regret his treatment of his family x x x

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Mustardnowletsnotbesilly Wed 02-Aug-17 19:33:48

I think some men do regret it in the end. I can only speak from experience that I know of. My Granddad left my Nan after 42 years for a mutual friend of theirs. He obviously saw our family less and the OW turned out to be a total naggy mare. She still is such a miserable person. Anyway before he died he said he felt like living with her (OW) was his punishment for cheating in the first place. So there you go. Yr DH so doesn't deserve you though... You have better things coming i'm sure!

Viking64 Wed 02-Aug-17 20:57:50

My wife has done this she left 2 weeks ago she also seemed to delete and completely alter facts but only of it suited her argument so in a way justifying her actions to leave in the first place.in the end I actually started to pity her because I think it was her way of handling the guilt.it's not been long since she left but I would not have her back if it did go wrong.I did not recognise this callous cold person I once cared for anymore. It does hurt like hell in the beginning but don't cry over someone who don't cry over you

mickyblueyes Thu 03-Aug-17 18:30:40

Will he regret his affair? Maybe he will and maybe he won't. The best thing you can do is live a full and happy life. People often talk about them getting their dosage of karma, what goes around comes around and all that, that is something you can't control.

The best way for them to get their karma is to see you living a full and happy life, do things you've always wanted to do, learn a new skill, get a hobby, meet new people, laugh and spend time with your son.

In the beginning it hurts like hell, it took me years to realise that I was wasting my time and energy wondering if my ex was happier, full of regrets. I eventually realised they weren't worth my mental energy.

I have realised I am so much happier and better off without my ex. Get support from your friends and family, read books, maybe go to therapy, keep posting in forums for support.

There's a fantastic website and forum for people like you and I who have had our hearts broken called www.chumplady.com

You will get thought this, your ex is an idiot and has come out with the same shit most cheaters speak.

Keep going, stay strong and fight for you and your son.

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