Separation after 16years !!

[Layniboggs123]

I asked my husband to move out after him always been at pub with his mates that are I their early 20s no kids and are single, hes 37 and we have been married 10 years tomorrow with a 7 year old.
I didn't want him to leave I wanted it to be a kick up arse he needed to see where his priority lie.He is now wanting to stay separated took his wedding ring off says he loves me but he cant change and we will be back in same position in month.
I know he prob right but I love him so much I can't imagine my life without him I'm constantly crying stomach in knots not sleeping and he's showing no emotions at all.He says he loves me and always will but not even willing to try . I'm hoping it's a midlife crisis but if not how long does it take to not be such a wreck x

[Viking64]

My wife left last Saturday after nearly 30 years together. She too said there is more to life than being married (too me anyway )but I tell you something now she's gone yes it hurts but it gives you a chance to reflect on things and I've realised that if this is how it is now then I will survive the same as you will .once the pain of seperating dulls you will probably be happier than you have been for years.I had knotted stomach and felt sick for months but no more.

[Layniboggs123]

Oh good to hear light at the end of the tunnel wish I could fast forward but suppose u have to fall apart to rebuild 😊

[Viking64]

You can't go around the hurt you have to put your head down and run through it.I get knotted feeling now and again.I was cleaning the wheelie bin last night and started to cry so I have a way to go but I understand that.my wife has found someone else which hurts but I don't feel sorry for myself I wish her the best