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Ladybird1989 Sun 23-Jul-17 21:06:34

My husband and I are separating. He has told me he is leaving ( we have a joint council tenancy). He works full time and I work part time as we have a 2 year old. Whilst I am absolutely heartbroken I know it's the right decision. Slightly hoping it won't be permanent but he says he hates me and doesn't want to know me. He is mentally abusive and he doesn't realise he is doing it. I.just don't even know where.to start. I'm scared because I won't be able to afford our bills are and I'm scared I will be moved out if my home because.i will be classed as."under.occupying".

I would really appreciate some advice as I feel besides myself and so alone.

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Ruddygreattiger2016 Sun 23-Jul-17 22:28:18

Op, first thing tomorrow phone tax credits and get the ball rolling, you can check tonight what you might get on the entitledto website. If you work part time you should be eligible for working tax credits and child tax credits. And dont forget your h works full time and he will have to pay child maintenence as I assume the toddler will be staying with you.
I know how scary it is but believe me, you will be okflowers

strawberrysundaepie Sun 23-Jul-17 22:38:03

You and your DS would be classed as the same as you, DP and DS when it comes to occupying, as it's acceptable for him to have his own room, regardless of how many adults there are.

strawberrysundaepie Sun 23-Jul-17 22:38:47

Sorry I just totally made up that you have a son. You said child blush

Properjob Sun 23-Jul-17 22:43:32

Hello Ladybird, feel for you, Im no expert on tax credits etc but you will find loads of advice on here. Feel the same way about my synch. Hope you get lots of support IRL too, friends and family are a lifeline and may surprise you. Take it one day at a time you will be very up and down. Sending hugs flowers let us know how you are getting on

Ladybird1989 Mon 24-Jul-17 08:07:39

Thank you all for your replies I didn't expect any so soon smile Ruddygreattiger2016 I have applied for a form for tac credits so hopefully that will help. He knows he has to pay bit said he was going to quit his job.. assuming to get out of giving me any money?

strawberrysundaepie I do have a son haha so good guess! I'm hoping that's true.as my son absolutely loves it here in his new home! I have also contacted a solicitor for some advice as I don't really find CAB very useful.

Thank you for your kind words Properjob. I'm new to all of this so bare with me.

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Penfold007 Mon 24-Jul-17 08:22:54

Have a look at www.entitledto.co.uk the calculator will give you an idea of what you may be able to claim.
Contact your housing officer to get STBXH removed from the tenancy and start a CMS claim today.

Ladybird1989 Mon 24-Jul-17 09:48:01

I will have a look thank you. I have a 3 bedroom house so not sure if the council will move me to a smaller property sad

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Ladybird1989 Mon 24-Jul-17 14:56:16

Sooo the solicitor returned my call. Completely didn't pick it up because I bottled it. Ffs. How can I live my life as a single mother if I can't even answer a phone call? angry

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Penfold007 Tue 25-Jul-17 08:39:37

Ladybird be kind to yourself. Your H has had time to process his thoughts about ending the relationship and you've only just begun the journey. Has he moved out or said when he's going to?
There are several things you can do before speaking to a solicitor such as applying for benefits, sorting out tenancy etc. Your housing provider may offer you a smaller property but face that challenge if and when it comes. Are you and H able to talk about the relationship ending and what needs to happen?

Ladybird1989 Tue 25-Jul-17 09:59:17

He said he is moving out at the end if the month but he doesn't have a specific date or anywhere to go to. Our bills come out end of next week and they come out of my account so I'm worried I will be left with no money. I've tried to talk but he never has been one to talk about his feelings. I have asked him if we can talk but he just ignores it

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