Talk

Flip

Here you'll find divorce help and support from other Mners. For legal advice, you may find Advice Now guides useful.

Divorce/separation

Do i stay for the sake of my son

4 replies

BabyG2015 · 19/07/2017 15:17

Will keep this as brief as i can. Ive been married for 8 weeks and im miserable. Ive also been very stupid and met a guy on my hen and an on/off affair since, but he wants to work on his marriage so that is over. I did get feelings for him. So, ive been with OH for 9 yrs, he is 20yrs older than me. We fought hard with IVF and miscarriages to get our 2yr old. I love my husband but not in love.. i love him as my best friend. I dont like him touching me and our sexlife is non exsistant, as i dont want it with him. He is a very decent man, works hard, fantastic dad and loves the ground i walk on. But im so miserable. Im barely eating, drinking alot and have lost 6lbs this week alone. Im close to tears. So, what do i do, do i stay with him, for my son, in fear that i may stray again (note, ive never cheated before this) do i leave and make my son from a broken home? Is that selfish? I just dont know what to do.

OP posts:

Report

BadHatter · 19/07/2017 17:04

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

BabyG2015 · 19/07/2017 17:30

Poor troll effort???
As in internet troll??
This really isnt!!!!

OP posts:

Report

mummmy2017 · 19/07/2017 17:42

Have you thought about sitting down with this great guy and really talking to him about not feeling right about life.

He may be able to come up with some ideas to save your marriage if you give him a chance, because being a single mum on your own really isn't that great, and there is no guarantee the man you have a one night with will be the one, and you could be far worse of than you are now.

Report

BabyG2015 · 19/07/2017 18:25

I will sit down with my husband, but i want to make sure that these feelings are real and not a reaction of my infidelity, although i had these feelings before, but not quite as strong.
I has more than the one night with this man, we met on several occasions but he has made it clear that he wants to work on his marriage so for me to leave my husband, it wouldnt be for anyone else. I have thought about what my future will hold, but im not happy, and im confused if its a risk worth taking.
My poor son, loves his daddy and it breaks my heart, im so confused. I was sort of coming to terms with me cheating with the fact it was before i was married, but then i slept with this man again since. In fact, ive had sex with this man 4 times, and i havent even had sex with my husband that much in the last 18 months!
I feel undeserving of him and my son.