I'm making excuses not to leave

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My relationship with my husband is not good. He's not a nice guy, and from his point of view I'm a disappointment.

The reason I am reluctant to leave is that he will not care for our DC if he was to get any share of the custody. He is mean, says very cutting things and his only activity with the kids is eating Macdonalds and putting the TV on.

His family are tricky, and this makes things difficult.

Our latest situation that will out me (hi friends) is that my eldest was sleeping over at one aunts (the nicest one) and when he comes back he tells me there was some sort of incident and the police were called. According to 8 year old DS the police came to the house 3 times. He doesn't really know why, but he did tell me a few things that scared me a little.

Nobody told me or my husband. I think it's so crazy that my child is in a situation where the police have been called and my husband and I don't know. Even after picking up, nobody mentioned it.

My husband thinks this is fine and I'm unreasonable.

Fair enough they don't want me to know their business but maybe tell my husband?

So I can't leave. Because husband will get some share of custody and my kids will be in situations like this and worse (past experience) and I won't be able to help.

What can I do? Am I just making excuses?