It's been a long time coming but I'm getting to the end of my tether with my husband and am contemplating kicking him out.
Not sure where to start the story but he's just finished the second year at uni and we are in so much debt (credit card debt) that we simply can't afford for him to go into the final year. We have a 16 month old son, I've had to go back to work full time which I desperately didn't want to do but fortunately I earn a lot so it was a solution to our financial problem, but only if he pulled his weight too. Basically after being made redundant he went to uni and hasn't been motivated enough to get a decent part time job or jobs to keep our heads above water, hence the credit card debt. Our outgoings have been greater than our incomings. A year of my maternity leave didn't help that. So about 6 weeks ago I finally pulled my big girl pants on and accepted we were in the soup and looked into ways to solve it. He didn't get on the same page as me and refused to deal with it. I went to stay with family for a couple of days with our DS which I hoped would make him realise what he would be losing if he continued to stick his head in the sand. Fast forward a few weeks and apart from some half arsed job searches we are no further forward and at real risk of losing everything including our marriage.
I'm not sure what help or advice I'm looking for here, I'm just wondering if anyone else can offer me any thoughts on how to make him realise he has to step up or do I stop trying to make him do something he won't do for himself and take charge of my life on my own?
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Feeling my marriage is on the skids
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Wharm14 · 10/07/2017 18:41
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