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SnugglyBedSocks · 17/06/2017 19:02

I started a thread in relationships but didn't get a response so apologies for a repeat thread.

My DH told me Wednesday that it's over. I have no idea what to do next.

Guess I will need a solicitor? Can anyone recommend anyone in the Northampton area please

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Hermonie2016 · 18/06/2017 16:26

Hi, so sorry this is happening.First step you could search on the resolution website for family solicitors in your area.

Call a few and arrange to meet them.Its important you feel comfortable with the solicitor.

Do you have family support? Lean on friends or family.

What are the circumstances? Do you have children? Will he move out.

The first few weeks are shock, know it's the worst stage and will get better.

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babybarrister · 18/06/2017 18:02

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SnugglyBedSocks · 18/06/2017 19:54

He is keen to get the house valued and on the market

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SnugglyBedSocks · 19/06/2017 07:19

I just don't know what to do. He is adamant it is over - won't consider counselling, weekend away to discuss, trying to sort it. Just wants out.

Do I still cook and wash for him?

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babybarrister · 19/06/2017 09:17

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SnugglyBedSocks · 19/06/2017 23:07

I have booked one.

He has booked valuations next week and wants the house on the market then too

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babybarrister · 20/06/2017 14:14

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Hermonie2016 · 20/06/2017 14:20

Valuations are fine but selling the house maybe premature as you need to resolve finances and agree where you will both live.

How long were you together? Are there children?

Does either or you have pensions or savings? These are all assets from the marriage.Don't let his rush become your timetable..take what time you need.

Have you agreed on divorce?

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SnugglyBedSocks · 20/06/2017 17:44

Married 15yrs. 2 boys. One autistic.

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Hermonie2016 · 20/06/2017 18:25

See a solicitor and don't agree to selling until you can see a way forward for you and your children.

're sharing the house, it's difficult some people can share household tasks whilst separating but not many!

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Viking64 · 20/06/2017 19:38

I'm house sharing but seperating it's not easy and we are amicable.my wife wants to sell now but as we have to be separated 2 years before a divorce is granted I'm going nowhere soon.don't be bullied into anything take a few weeks to get your head straight

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SnugglyBedSocks · 20/06/2017 20:14

There is a third party waiting in the wings for him

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