I am going through a very long painful divorce. My husband left me after a 20+ year marrage with our 3 teenagers nearly 3 years ago. I tried for the first year, hoping he would return but started proceedings back in November 2014. We tried mediation, but as he was self employed and run his own business the mediator would not sign off his Form E for court as his books didn't add up. Our lifestyle obviously cost more than he was declaring. I worked 3 days a week from when our children arrived and have continued to do so. Since the separation I have now returned full time as I cannot maintain our lifestyle on the basic maintenance he now pays me. We are now on our way to court and I am scared. I hope to get 70% of the equity to buy a new home with the children (which he only sees every other weekend). I will also need to repay the solicitors and courts fees that are mounting. I also have a Civil Service pension, which for a 3 day week while married was modest, but obviously better than some. My Ex has no pension, never has. But he has always invested in properties with his brother and currently has 3. His argument is that they aren't worth as much as my pension and he wants 50% of the family home and 50% of my pension. I have asked for 70% of family home and will not claim on his property investments with his brother if he leaves my pension alone. He refuses, and says I am being totally unreasonable. We are now heading for court and I feel physically sick with the worry if I am being unreasonable.
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