Hello, I'd really appreciate some help.(Update: I've just read through this and realise it is really long sorry!)
I've been separated for 2 years. My husband lives in the house we bought. I live in rented. He paid the deposit which was about £13k. I paid into the mortgage until I moved out. If he wanted the £13k I wouldn't argue about it, there are things I have paid for such as new windows but I haven't kept a record of them.
Our daughter lives with me Mon-Fri. She stays with him every weekend except one a month. He also has her every bank holiday and her birthday. At Christmas he has her from when school breaks up to midday christmas day then I have her to 27th December and he has her til she goes back to school. So it is hard for me to see family etc.
I work four days a week, 2 days we don't get home til 7pm so I feel I don't get much time with her. He sometimes has her in the week but works unpredicatable hours so can't commit to set day each week. He also has her whenever he is on leave.
He doesn't pay me maintenance but puts money into an ISA for her.
I saw a solicitor last month and got some advice. This is what I plan to send to him. Does it sound reasonable?
Dear xxxx,
I recently saw a solicitor and plan to file for the divorce on the grounds that we have been separated for 2 years. This is what I would like to propose:
- I received 50% of the equity in our house which I estimate to be £xxxxx. I would transfer my interest in the property to you on condition, that I am released fully from the terms of the joint mortgage debt.
- You start making maintenance payments to me. According to the CSA calculator this should be £xxx a month.
I feel I don't have enough quality time with xxxx. I understand you can't commit to seeing her during the week but would like a fairer split and would propose:
- We keep the current arrangement where I have her one weekend a month but in addition
- We split bank holiday weekends between us
- We alternate her birthday (starting next year with me)
- I have a four day block over christmas/new year
Kind regards