So I divorced my bullying narc exH and through fabulous counselling have been able to manage how I deal with him and our interactions are largely over email now and only for necessary things for the children (6&8yrs).
However we have a 50/50 order for everything, including finances and school fees. Neither of us pays support to the other due to similar salaries.
So exH sends me a message the other days saying how much he has saved for the children's future(i.e. Uni fees) and asked what I have saved and said we should invest in the same things to ensure we were building an equal pot for them.
In any normal relationship, this would be fine but I dread having to "sit down" with him to discuss this as he is very condescending and bullies his way through life (and bullied me in our marriage). I also worry if we have a joint fund. I want my finances totally separate to his as I do to want him to access them or take over how they are are spent.
Do I toughen up and sit down with him (and write up a contract of who is contributing what) or do I save separately (and equally)?
What would you do? It's hard to understand the problems trying to co parent with a narc. It's a bloody nightmare!
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