STBXH pushed for divorce as soon as he moved out. I know it's the right thing to do.
But the mixed emotions are natural aren't they?
When we separated I knew it was final. I'm not one for going back on a relationship. But honestly with 3 children left with me and having to give up my job etc I never thought I'd end up in another relationship let alone soon. However, I am seeing a lovely guy now, and though I thought it'd be a rebound and wouldn't last, we are good together - though we haven't said any serious words we do talk about the future and make plans. We share a hobby with friends which is nice to get out and about as well as private time.
It's just weird still with STBXH comes to my house (former family home) to see our girls as he has no where to take them. but he's clearly seeing someone now who lives a fair distance away. He's mentioned going there overnight a few times etc and he took a call on his mobile with a female who clearly was a personal call (wasn't eves dropping just mobiles aren't great at blocking voices).
it's made me wonder if there was something there before hand something that made him push for a divorce straight away.
I'm not wanting him back and not out to mend our 17 year marriage / 20 years together. It's just 'odd' and taking me time I guess.
Anyone else feel like this? I've decided to take my maiden name as think this will help my transition too.
Sorry if sound muddled, just helps to off load on here.
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Countdown to Absolute - mixed emotions
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Jaym2017 · 13/05/2017 16:07
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