Hi there- be grateful for any advice on this subject please.
My will be ex husband and I have been separated now for nearly 8 months and have decided to wait the standard 2 years of separation before divorcing.
We have 2 children, do not own any property or sizeable assets. Neither of us have savings. I have debt of around £8,000 accrued in my name during our marriage. He contributed to a lot of this debt but it is in my name as his credit score was so poor, he could not get any. I had to take it on.
We have no other assets other than my pension (teacher's- not final salary. Have no idea what it's worth. Teaching for 12 years upon separation) He has his own private pension scheme which he has only been paying into for 2 years.
He currently only gives me £30 a week in maintenance for the children and does not have them outside the family home. I provide all childcare and pay for everything myself. Although I currently earn around £500 a month more than him, our earnings have roughly been on par throughout our marriage- taking into account maternity leaves, early lower salary for me etc.
We are amicable and do not argue over the situation at all. The separation was led by me as I could no longer manage dealing with a lazy, third child who did nothing around the house and contributed very little financially whilst pissing his own finances up the wall.
When we divorce, how will this all be sorted? I think he had no idea of my pension at all. He has no clue about money and I don't think he even knows it exists. I have supported him and our family for years, even though he earns.
If we amicably agreed that's he maintains his lower maintenance and I take on all the family debt, do I have to give him any of my pension? (It would truly make my blood boil to do so!!!)
Any advice??
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