continue trying to come to an agreement?
We still live in the same house, got decree nisi, he has been emotionally abusive, not sorted finances yet, agreed teenager moving with me to my home country (at mediation, not yet legally). Both early fifties.
Mediation - done two. He insists that he needs 60% of equity (which less mortgage is worth around £310-320k) as will need to buy a flat. and property cheaper in my home town.
Twat.
I have been saying that I would settle for 50/50 just to get this over (teenagers exams are looming and is getting stressed about curriculum elsewhere!). Solicitor saying I should hold out for more.
there was no danger that he would take this as he keeps saying he wants 60%. He says he'd jack in his job and buy a campervan and I could whistle for child support if he didn't get enough to buy flat in a good enough area (that wasn't too rough) with only the small mortgage that he could get. I'm 'trying to screw him over'. Charming. Oh, yes - he hasn't even bothered to see a solicitor for advice - does not know just how reasonable I am being.
Mediator couldn't get us to agree and left it to us to talk and to get back to her within a month if we thought we could agree.
I resigned myself to setting my solicitor on him (who also suggests that we do the child removal thing in the court as x could take that back as not legally agreed)
I looked on calculator on wikivorce which says I could get 70% (wow, no mortgage!). this would make a big difference as I don't have qualifications and won't earn heaps even after I actually find a job.
So this would all take longer but would be a financially better outcome than I thought possible (for me and teenager).
Today he suggested that I show him website for prospective school and to show him properties available (this was one of his sticking points that it is much cheaper than I am trying to make out and that I am deliberately picking an expensive area) - while teenager is out tomorrow.
At first glance this seems to be him trying to be reasonable , to come to a sensible agreement.
Is it that he is coming to the realisation that court won't do him any favours?
God, I just want this all over. But at what expense...
Let's see what he says....
If you have made it this far - sorry, didn't realise I needed to get so much out!
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Should I just set my solicitor on him or
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longingforalife · 01/05/2017 00:42
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