I'm in a bit of a panic, and almost don't know where to begin.
I've been married since 2012, and we've been together since 2000. We have a son, he's just turned 2
I love her but I'm no longer in love with my wife. I could probably only list a couple of things I find bad about her or the relationship I'm being honest! she's a great girl and I still care for her. She is an amazing mother of my son. But I'm no longer happy. I've spent months trying to figure out what the problem is and how to fix it, or at least get it better. And I'm out of ideas.
I think it boils down to us getting together too early, and me never really living a life apart to find out what I really wanted. So this blog is part cathartic and part looking for advice. I've decided I'm going to give things a few months, maybe this is just an early midlife crisis and in a month or so I’ll look back and feel stupid for even writing this.
Having said that, I feel things are coming to a head, as I'm no longer able to really 'fake it' and it's becoming obvious to her that I'm mentally somewhat checked out. We're going to have the talk eventually and I just know that I'm going to do whatever to appease her and avoid the messy confrontation.
I guess my question is, what do I do? Do I end it or should I just devote myself to making the best out of this situation? I kind of feel like separation is inevitable. Is it better to move on now while we still have some hope of working together for the best interests of our son?
Another thing that makes it so hard is I know she'll fight tooth and nail to keep me….. I think it would be easier if I knew she hated or disliked me or something. But she doesn't. She's also sacrificed a lot for us to get where we are. So really part of why I haven't done anything yet is guilt. But surely guilt's not a good reason to stay in a relationship?
I also am afraid of the logistics, telling friends and family, and where do I go what about money and our son's daycare/preschool, etc.
Has anyone been in a similar situation?
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Should I end this marriage?
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user1490970199 · 31/03/2017 15:31
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