Me and my ex husband were together for 13 years, ea relationship and with the help of my best friend I finally got the courage to leave him last year. We've got three kids together and he's got regular contact with them. I try and make sure they haven't been witness to any arguments so they aren't aware of just how horrid he was to me. We get on ok, we can be civil when we talk etc. So it was my birthday and Mother's Day within the last few days, he didn't arrange anything for the kids to give me, which is shit but usual behaviour from him. How do I deal with this when it gets to his birthday and Father's Day? Every inch of me wants to get him nothing from the kids or remind them that it's his birthday or fathers day but if I'm honest I feel like it's only the kids who end up getting hurt by that. Do I stoop to his level or do I take the high road and be the nicer person for the sake of the kids?
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