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Narcissist ex appealing decree nisi

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goddessgirl7 Wed 22-Mar-17 19:33:55

Hi all
My ex has received the certificate of entitlement this morning and has emailed my solicitor to say he is going to appeal it. He originally said he was going to defend the divorce but never filed the defence. We have been separated 4 yrs and I filed due to unreasonable behaviour as he has always refused to sign divorce papers for no fault divorce. I have undergone years of emotional abuse and this has continued since separation he has been issued with a pin notice from the police for harassing me and is taking me to small claims court for 3000 quid for him receiving it. The police are currently investigating a criminal charge of harassment with him being arrayed in the next week or 2. Can he appeal the decree nisi? I have an 11yr old dd who is currently on suspended contact with him due to his behaviour and am still waiting for him to file a c100 for the court to make a devision (been waiting since september)

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MrsBertBibby Wed 22-Mar-17 20:10:43

He can apply for the certificate to be set aside, but I suspect he will struggle. It depends what he says in his application, always supposing he makes one.

He can make trouble, but he's most unlikely to prevent you from divorcing him.

What a knob.

goddessgirl7 Wed 22-Mar-17 20:31:08

He is trying to draw the process out as long as possible as he's told me on numerous occasions he will bankrupt me. Not sure why he is defending he doesn't want to stay married just doesn't like what I wrote on the petition lol

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jeaux90 Wed 22-Mar-17 23:08:36

Goddess can you go no contact with him and do everything through your sol? You know nc is the only way with narc specimens

(Congrats on your pending freedom by the way) smile

goddessgirl7 Thu 23-Mar-17 09:29:55

Thanks guys I will speak to my solicitor again this morning and ring the court re the small claims. I am on no contact except through the solicitor but he keeps turning up at my work hence the police looking into harassment and planning to arrest him soon.

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goddessgirl7 Thu 23-Mar-17 09:37:59

Thanks guys I have gone no contact but he keeps turning up at work hence the police looking at formal harassment charges. Have just received court paperwork this morning so will have to go to court now to defend a 3000 quid small claims court against me for him being issued with a pin notice for harassing me. I can't believe they have not thrown this case out it is ridiculous. I am absolutely gutted sad

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jeaux90 Thu 23-Mar-17 09:43:50

Deep breath. It's all about him still trying to control you. Outwardly you need to shrug it off, inside I know you are seething.

You are doing the right things clearly. Don't back down on enforcing harassment. Narcs don't get the concept of consequence, they are above the law in their heads and the only way my ex narc "got it" was by executing on everything I said I would.

goddessgirl7 Thu 23-Mar-17 11:27:12

Thanks jeaux90 I have spoken to solictor this morning and she is going to write a letter to the court explaining his behaviour and hopefully they will still issue the nisi. Have also spoken to the court really the small claims apparently the letter is sent out automatically and it still has not been looked at by a judge so hopefully will still be thrown out

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Hermonie2016 Thu 23-Mar-17 16:47:13

Oh grief, what a high conflict individual.I think his narcisstic credentials are confirmed!

AnnettePrice Sat 25-Mar-17 08:40:09

I've been there. STBXH decided to defend the divorce. It gave him another outlet to lie and moan about how horrible I was and make out he was the victim.
I was very stressed about it, fortunately in the end though he had his time in court (listening to the lies and slanderous accusations in person felt abusive) the court listened but they could see what was going on (thought the judge was about to roll his eyes at one point grin)
I got the nisi, STBXH got ordered to pay me the court fees grin.
It's looking like I should be free before the summer

goddessgirl7 Sun 26-Mar-17 20:18:01

Wow AnnettePrice they sou d like to peas in a pod. Am crossing everything that the nisi will be done on Monday and that the judge will see through him. Hopefully we will both be free by the summer

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goddessgirl7 Wed 29-Mar-17 08:25:56

Yay after all his threats to my solicitor he has not contacted the court and I have my decree nisi am doing a happy dance!

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ringlingsisters Wed 29-Mar-17 08:29:48

Congratulations! What a relief that must be.

AnnettePrice Wed 29-Mar-17 09:10:34

goddess congratulations!!!

6 weeks and a day, the end is now in sight smile

jeaux90 Thu 30-Mar-17 11:34:23

Congrats goddess grin xxxxx

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