My ex left me in Dec 2016 to be with his new GF in the European country where he has worked for several years.
They were meant to be moving here and setting up home to be near our two kids but that has now been shelved and there are no plans to move to the UK.
Since the split, I have been leaving our home for a weekend every fortnight so that my ex can be with the kids without their lives being disrupted too much. This has been the case for 15 months or so now and I felt that it was especially important as one DC was taking important exams during the early period.
However, I am finding this situation more and more depressing and don't feel I can do it for years and years. It obviously suits the kids, which is why I agreed to do it and it also saves money as ex doesn't have to rent a place here. However, I hate having him in 'my' home - I feel like I have to tidy it every time he comes and it increasingly feels like an invasion.
I am really torn and worried that I am being selfish and a bad mum if I think about ending what is a great set up in many ways. Any thoughts/advice?
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FlorenceandtheWashingMachine · 12/03/2017 21:30
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