It's starting, I need your advice & support ladies

[SeamusMacDubh]

So, he's said it rather than push me to say it. He doesn't love me, doesn't want me or the house.

So I need to get organised and work out practically what I can do. I'm very emotional and stressed about it all. I had been concentrating on the DC, just getting through the days because I couldn't face all of this and now he has forced my hand.

So, I'm SAHM to two DCs aged 3 and 17 months. We have a mortgage, my car is paid for with a personal loan but that's the only debt we have. I'm worried about how I'm going to afford to live with the children, where we're going to live and whether he'll pay me enough to support myself and the children. I wouldn't put it past my H to quit his job so that he wouldn't have to pay me money. I have no idea how much child support is or how much I'd get. I don't think I want to stay up here where we live (it's his home town) and I'd like to move back down nearer my family but I don't think I'd be able to.

My head is a mess and I don't know where to start.

[BlueBlueSkies]

Start by doing a list of what you need to live on, and all the assets of the marriage, savings, pensions, etc. Mortgage, bills and general day to day costs.

As you are married you need to see a solicitor, they will tell you your rights. Generally it is considered that the assets will be split 50/50. As you have kids and you are not working, then you would normally get a bigger share. Child support depends on his salary and the number of days he will have the kids, look at the CSA website and they have a calculator. You can also ask for spousal maintenance.

It is a very confusing and upsetting time, good luck. You will come out the other side.