Seems like me & STBXH have 2 choices - WWYD?
We are being civil, if maybe not amicable! Sharing child care 60:40 to me.
- STAY in house
Force a charge/Mescher order on house, until kids old enough
I can afford the mortgage, but not to buy him out. I am self-employed.
For - Kids (9&6) stay in good local school
Against - ExH would have to rent for 12 years (not enough left-over to buy) - expensive property area. Is this fair on him & my kids (they deserve a home with him too)
- SELL - Move to near my parents (40mins drive away)
Won't affect kids seeing ExH as he is equal distance away
I can't afford to buy in area on my own - too expensive.
For - Financial independence ! ExH can then get his equity (about 25%)
Against - Kids have to move schools & schools in new area are over-subscribed so school place not guaranteed. This seems so unfair to them when they are so happy. Plus I will have to start-over with making friends in area.
I literally can't decide on which to push for. I can argue either way - I just need to figure out what I want!!! ExH can't wait to be shot of me (after his EA)! But is being fair financially & we have agreed child maintenance.
Anyone else finding all this stuff paralysing? Some days I just stare at blank walls, my mind in over-drive.