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Stay or Move House - WWYD?

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Retepetite1 Sat 04-Mar-17 22:44:33

Seems like me & STBXH have 2 choices - WWYD?
We are being civil, if maybe not amicable! Sharing child care 60:40 to me.

1) STAY in house
Force a charge/Mescher order on house, until kids old enough
I can afford the mortgage, but not to buy him out. I am self-employed.
For - Kids (9&6) stay in good local school
Against - ExH would have to rent for 12 years (not enough left-over to buy) - expensive property area. Is this fair on him & my kids (they deserve a home with him too)

2) SELL - Move to near my parents (40mins drive away)
Won't affect kids seeing ExH as he is equal distance away
I can't afford to buy in area on my own - too expensive.
For - Financial independence ! ExH can then get his equity (about 25%)
Against - Kids have to move schools & schools in new area are over-subscribed so school place not guaranteed. This seems so unfair to them when they are so happy. Plus I will have to start-over with making friends in area.

I literally can't decide on which to push for. I can argue either way - I just need to figure out what I want!!! ExH can't wait to be shot of me (after his EA)! But is being fair financially & we have agreed child maintenance.

Anyone else finding all this stuff paralysing? Some days I just stare at blank walls, my mind in over-drive.

JonesyAndTheSalad Sun 05-Mar-17 09:41:01

Can you moved twenty minutes away and get cheaper? Then the kids could stay in their schools. A twenty min drive is ok...even a thirty really.

Iggi999 Sun 05-Mar-17 09:43:37

Least change for the kids surely the best - you might find in a year or two they are up for a move but new family set-up, new home AND new school is a lot of stress, if there's an alternative.

AmyMum2mumStoke Tue 28-Mar-17 00:40:11

Stay in the house, it would be better for your kids. Yes your ex will have to rent for 12 years but once you sell he will have a good deposit to buy x

QuarterMileAtATime Tue 28-Mar-17 16:10:20

Could you agree to move at another stage - e.g. When your second DC starts secondary school - so no extra school changes and ex only renting for 5 years?

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