I have a six year old girl who lives with me full time, but goes to her dad's on alternate weekends (Including Friday and Sunday night) and for tea on Mondays and Thursdays. We split the week in two over the holidays and it has worked like this for 18 months. My family live away, so I have asked to swap weekends on occasion, which he normally won't do, including one time asking so that my daughter could go to a family wedding abroad for the weekend, (which he didn't allow).
He sent me a letter from a solicitor saying that he wanted me to sign a drafted letter that stated when he was going to have DD. I wasn't prepared to do that as I didn't want to sign any rights away and I couldn't afford a solicitor to look over it.
After a few weeks, I was sent another letter saying that I needed to attend mediation (which I couldn't afford and I don't qualify for legal aid) so I went through a few things over email with him and his mediator (who was provided by his solicitor and has solicitors qualifications) and told him that I was more than willing to talk normally, more than willing to attend mediation, but if he wanted professional mediation, he would have to pay. I also said that a mutual friend had offered to mediate for us, so that neither of us would have to pay.
I got a forceful email saying that If I wouldn't mediate, the mediator would write out a c100 form and state that I refused mediation.
I spoke to my ex very civilly on the phone and told him the unnecessary stress that he was putting and will put on this house and his daughter. We actually had a very nice chat and when we ended the conversation I felt that finally we had moved on. That was in October. He got married in November.
Yesterday, however, I received a court date stating that the arrangements had broken down. He crossed 'no' on every single concern question and has lied so that I will be forced into court to sign an arrangement order. I cant afford a solicitor and I feel bullied into this whole thing. Where do I go from here? He hasn't taken our daughter's feelings into consideration and is jeopardising her happiness. I've worked two and three jobs at a time to keep her well and have had little to no support as my family live away on the other side of the country. Everything I do, its for my daughter and with my daughter in mind.
I still can't afford legal advice and I still don't qualify for legal aid. What can I do to keep him from taking everything away from me?
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CaptainCarpet · 09/02/2017 18:25
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