Advice for separating sister

[Elocampane]

Hi. Some impartial advice please, wise people.

My sister has very recently asked her H to pack and stay with his parents after yet another temper outburst where he threw something at their 7 year old son.

She contacted the local children and family unit who recommended he not have unsupervised access to the kids until after a review. They are fully supporting her (assessed as high risk of abuse based on questionnaire and interview)

She's had a girls' weekend away planned for over a year, our parents are now saying she should cancel because her STBXH will use her trip away as 'evidence' she doesn't care about the kids / is a bad mother etc. and use it against her.

I think this is ridiculous, she will be desperate for a decent break after a month and a half of having the kids almost full time (apart from when they are in school, and for a few hours on a weekend where H can arrange for his parents to chaperone him.)

I've told her to speak to her 'case worker' (?) for advice, but can I have some advice from you lovely people?

She's really stressed about it all anyway, without added pressure from well meaning but I suspect I'll informed parents. Or am I wide of the mark?

[MrsBertBibby]

Chaps who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. Especially not at the kids.

Take the holiday. No court will care. Unless she leaves the kids somewhere stupid.