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Advice for separating sister(2 Posts)
Hi. Some impartial advice please, wise people.
My sister has very recently asked her H to pack and stay with his parents after yet another temper outburst where he threw something at their 7 year old son.
She contacted the local children and family unit who recommended he not have unsupervised access to the kids until after a review. They are fully supporting her (assessed as high risk of abuse based on questionnaire and interview)
She's had a girls' weekend away planned for over a year, our parents are now saying she should cancel because her STBXH will use her trip away as 'evidence' she doesn't care about the kids / is a bad mother etc. and use it against her.
I think this is ridiculous, she will be desperate for a decent break after a month and a half of having the kids almost full time (apart from when they are in school, and for a few hours on a weekend where H can arrange for his parents to chaperone him.)
I've told her to speak to her 'case worker' (?) for advice, but can I have some advice from you lovely people?
She's really stressed about it all anyway, without added pressure from well meaning but I suspect I'll informed parents. Or am I wide of the mark?
Chaps who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. Especially not at the kids.
Take the holiday. No court will care. Unless she leaves the kids somewhere stupid.
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