Partners ex wife doesnt see need for clean break so won't sign

[Minime85]

Hi,

Anyone expereineced this? Not sure where it leaves us or what to do. She agrees no assets or children etc but won't sign clean break. Want to cry.

[ThisIsStartingToBoreMe]

I refused to sign a clean break because it might have left me worse off finAncially . I expect this is why your partners ex won't sign one.

[fuzzywuzzy]

What does your solicitor say? I'd get legal advice

[MsGameandWatch]

I don't blame her.

[RacoonBandit]

I agree with her.
I nearly signed a clean break believing we had no assets and we had already agreed on 50:50 until I spoke to a solicitor.
Yeah his very healthy pension i had no idea about appears to be half mine!

P.S EXDH and i get on great now and hes stopped the twat behaviour long ago.

[Minime85]

She is the one with the pension to loose. He doesn't want it. No house. No children. She has said this in writing. They spent his redundancy and pension payout when they were together but he doesn't want any of it. Just wants to protect himself and her for the future.

[RacoonBandit]

Sorry wrong thread.

[SandyY2K]

She might change her mind if he shows an interest in her pension.

[languagelearner]

Sometimes I feel I drew a lucky lottery ticket when being Swedish as there's no such thing as "signing for a clean break" (it's automatically triggered here so nobody has to sign anything). I's so sorry for you. But Sandy might have a point, pensions are important!

[ThisIsStartingToBoreMe]

Do a deal with her. Offer to leave her pension alone if she agrees a clean break. If she still refuses then go for half her pension.

If she's the one with the assets and she won't sign a clean break then she's silly

[HowamIgoingtocope]

Just a thought. Back off and let him deal with it. Not your ex partner really not.your problem.

[hahahaIdontgetit]

It could end up being your problem, so don't back off ad let him deal with it (what ridiculous advice).

If no clean break then go for her pension if he really doesn't have any hidden assets. That should speed things up.

[HowamIgoingtocope]

Not advise my opinion as I know how much anot her partner can hinder negotiations. Been there done that bought the sodding t shirt. I wanted the clean break he wanted everything on didn't have. As soon as the partner actilyally shut up we managed to get things done.

[hahahaIdontgetit]

And in English?

[HowamIgoingtocope]

It's 5.36 am I've been up since 12 with a 6 year old who's managed to coat every surface in vomit. Sorry English isn't a language I know at present.

[MrsBertBibby]

He just needs to issue his application (Form A, £255 court fee) and let the court deal with it.

[Minime85]

Thanks for the replies. Courts don't want to see you unless you've mediated, and there is nothing to mediate. Seeing a solicitor next week to see how To move forward. I don't want to be part of it at all. Just want to be able to move forward but this is stopping us.

[HowamIgoingtocope]

Book mediation. Go book a session. It's means tested so they will tell you how much. The first session is free. Send her the invite . If she refuses. Then you've tried. She's refused onto court you go. It's a normal process for mediation attempt even if you think there's nothing to mediate. This unfortunatly is between your partner and his ex. It's useful if he drafts a proposal. He can put it to her if she goes to the first session. If not court it is. Just be there on the sideline. Just support. Nod and let him get on with it.

[Minime85]

Thank you.