After a couple of years of unhappiness, and a few months of real relationship breakdown, myself and DH have called time.
We have 4 DC and will be co-habiting in the same house until a financial settlement is reached and I am able to buy my own place, so could be a looong time.
I've moved to my Daughters bedroom while she's in with her younger sister.
We told the children and our immediate families but no one else yet, though that will change by the end of the week when the children tell all and sundry at school.
I instigated the breakup but he knows we had massive problems and wasn't fighting it in the end. We're fairly amicable at the moment.
Anyone else want to join in on my very uncertain journey forwards?
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Krap · 03/01/2017 01:13
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Krap ·
03/01/2017 13:02
Oh twatbad, that must be hell! I'm so sorry
Tree, the next chapter is going to be awful, I'm sure, let's hope the light at the end of the tunnel isn't too far away. I hope you get the result you want this afternoon. My parents are a bit crap with emotional stuff, I haven't particularly had the response I'd hoped for.
Daisy, I'm very relieved too. Bordering on ecstatic tbh! But I can't outwardly show that, obviously, but just the last two nights sleeping alone and watching my shit on the telly feels so liberating and I can't wait for it to be that time of day and not to have to play at some charade of happy marriage while we just sit there ignoring one another.
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twatbadgingcuntfuckerymark2 ·
03/01/2017 22:41
Oh I found out about the Wife first. 3 months before the GF but my gut knew it wasn't the whole truth. I said to him repeatedly. You are keeping something from me. I know you are and he swore blind he wasn't. I accepted this but kept looking online for information.
Then I discovered the girlfriend when I asked him about the girlfriend he fobbed her off as a friend. I accepted to him but I knew it was her.
I discovered this via social media. It was a post on new years day. I saw it at 6am. That confirmed my suspicions.
I commented on the picture first nothing ragey. Then sent her a private message with much more detail and what I knew.
I then screen grabbed the picture. Sent it to the ex and demanded to know what the fuck was going on so she got the messages before he had chance to concoct a story.
She called me with him in the room, my insistence I speak on the phone so I knew who I was talking too and it all came out.
I raged at him called him a cunt a liar a cheat and arsehole. He was of course just muttering 'twat, you know that's not true' when I yelled at him we had had sex recently. Told the GF I would message her all my proof we were together and I did. Every last bit. Including my call log dated and timed with length of calls to him. Calls when he said to her he needed to go out 
I also told the Wife what had happened. I didn't want him grovelling back to her. In another life me and the wife would be ace friends!
I messaged everyone of the friends he had told me about and anyone with his surname in his friends list with a shortened version of events. My very lovely friend set up a public facebook post linking all the accounts he had, the truth and with a fabulous meme so anyone could search his name and find it.
He received so much abuse and angry messages from people he's hurt he's shut down his social media and has no one. Literally no one.
his wife confirmed this. He confirmed this. His friends are disgusted they too were lied to. I've recieved messages from a number of them I haven't replied to.
My battle scars are going to take a long time to heal but I destroyed him like he did to me and to her and to his wife.
Moral of the story, don't piss me off 
Krap ·
04/01/2017 00:39
Twat, that is awesome! totally and utterly shit for you though, but well fucking done!!
I doubt he'd get debt in my name, he's self employed so he needs to be financially sound and he's also completely anal about money so I doubt he'd have it in him.
Pippi, I feel exactly the same. 
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