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Mermaidinthesea Thu 29-Dec-16 12:58:12

Hi Everyone, I have a query for you. Obviously I need to go and see a solicitor asap but I have zero funds right now.
My husband just left with absolutely no warning. He has dumped me with all the bills and the mortgage and run away. I found out his address by subterfuge so I know where he lives now and he is renting.
Is he legally responsible for paying half of the bills and the mortgage even though he has abandoned me for his new party boy lifestyle?
Surely legally you cannot dump all your joint monthly bills on one partner until a legal separation has been sorted out?

MrsBertBibby Thu 29-Dec-16 13:05:14

I assume no kids?

There isn't much you can do to make him pay anything joint. If you can't afford it on your income, you can ask the Court for an order for interim maintenance, but it's quite hard to get. It may well be throwing good money after bad.

Obviously if you have kids, phone the CMS immediately.

Mermaidinthesea Thu 29-Dec-16 13:12:40

No I have no children with him, I have an adult son from another relationship. Amazing that somebody can run off like that. Today I've refused to pay any bill in his name and referred all the queries to his new address. That will teach him.

babybarrister Thu 29-Dec-16 13:13:29

Please go and get some detailed advice - resolution has a list of specialist family lawyers. Alternatively let me or mrsbb know where you are and we can suggest someone

Ilovecaindingle Thu 29-Dec-16 13:16:11

When household bills were in my name only and we split I wrote to the relevant companys explaining that although in my name there were 2 adults at the address and they could check via the electoral role. I accepted responsibility for 50% of each bill and they agreed to chase him for the other 50% . Maybe do this - especially since you have his address!!

Mermaidinthesea Fri 30-Dec-16 13:39:16

Unfortunately most of them are in my name. I paid the mortgage and all the bills for 17 years as he never reliably had a job so I couldn't assume he would be able to pay the bills. That's why they are in my name or I would have been getting non payment letters and fines all the time and our credit ratings would have been shot.
Unfortunately now he has left just after I went part time at work as I have been ill and can't work more than part time.
This means it is all I can do to cover repayments for everything and have only just enough left over to eat and pay my petrol to go to work. It's in my work contract that I have to have a car as I do a lot of home visits.
I literally have zero money left over to see a solicitor of take him to court over anything and he knows this. I am over a barrel. I can go for a free half hour appointment - i did think of sneakily going to see 6 different solicitors and ask all of them different questions but I cannot pay for anything right now. It will take me 6 months to a year to save for any kind of legal action.
i have no idea what to do about this situation.

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