Hi please don't shoot me down because I am a man.
I was looking to get divorce advice and your forum was the only one i could see that actually had people responding.
I want to ask advice and I am trying not to express any opinions
My wife and I separated 3 years ago. I'll add a few details only because it may have a bearing on my question.
I was the one to leave and I left because I had feelings for someone else and i felt my marriage was no longer working. I was not happy . I havent given the full details because I dont want to sound bitter or like I am trying to defend my self.
Anyway my wife was not happy and has hated the person who was the reason for my leaving
We have always been civil throughout the separation
soon after separating we attended mediation and we agreed an amount for child maintenance (we have 1 daughter who is now 13)
we also agreed an amount for spousal maintenance.
These payments have been made every month since we agreed. I have never missed a payment and don't intend to.
At the time of mediation we also agreed the split of the assets with my wife getting 62% and I settled for 38%.
We signed an agreement form in the mediation to this effect. My understanding was that this was the financial matters closed.
Since the separation we have both purchased our own homes (of a similar size) we both live alone except for our daughter I have my daughter 2 nights every week.
In the three years that we have been separated there hasnt been any big dramas so life has been ticking along. we have both settled and agreed that there is no chance of us getting back together. I should mention that I still have a relationship with the someone else who was the reason for my leaving and my wife still doesnt like this person and hence my daughter doesnt like her either.
The problem i have is that my wife wont agree to a divorce, and I am not clear why. Every time i bring it up she says that the timing is not good for her. I asked again this week after 3 years of living apart and she said that the timing is not good and some financial matters have not yet been finalised. I know she was very hurt in the beginning but i think she is mostly over the initial pain and seems to be enjoying her life.
So my question is what are the reasons that she might not want a divorce because its puzzling to me and I am worrying about the "Financial matters" comment because i am afraid she is going to ask for more money - which i really cannot afford.
thanks if you can offer any advice
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hombre123 · 11/11/2016 17:23
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