No light at the end of the tunnel

[toeinthewater]

Divorced for two years, ex bought a place with new GF but he is not allowing me to move on. My ex refuses to communicate with me regarding seeing the children, 14 and 16, he only sees them every few weeks. Blocked him on my phone and email as he only used them to verbally abuse me, Constantly putting me down to our children, Each week his child maintenance is wrong, only by 50p or a pound but doing it to annoy me and unsettle me. Feeling very isolated as nothing I can do about his behavior and upset that I have 5 more years of this. Wondering how others cope.

[jeaux90]

By doing the two fingered tap dance and not giving a shit about what they do or any of the little things. I do hope you are getting on with your own life and enjoying time with your teens and getting time to yourself to do what you enjoy and socialise. Big hug, they are draining, but try caring less xxx

[hermione2016]

Can he deal directly with the children? Do you have a court order for finances?

It's best to detach, if you realise he's doing it to make you unsettled then be determined to not let it happen.

When the emotional bonds are broken you just don't feel impacted anymore.Its just a neutral feeling and you can observe the behaviour as you would someone walking down the street.This is what you need to get to, complete detachment.